Misconceptions about Gay People and Our Dogs
There seem to be new stories every day spreading wild ideas about gay people and our mythical “agenda”. Some people think we’re trying to convert them. Others think we’re trying to shut down all the churches. Others think we’re trying to serve pizza at our weddings. Don’t even get me started on the crazy theories people have about our dogs. Oops, too late. This entire post is about that. Since there seems to be so much confusion, I’m going to try to clear up some misconceptions about gay people and our dogs.
Q: You’re gay?!?!??? But You don’t look gay! Oh, that must be why you have a little dog.
A: The only thing you can be sure that gay people will look like is they’ll look like people. Being gay doesn’t mean you talk a certain way or dress a certain way. Also, I’m not hiding anything. I generally don’t feel the need to make a big announcement about it either. I mean, when’s the last time you walked into a room and said “HEY EVERYONE, I DATE WOMEN! (or men, depending on who’s reading this). In most cases, it’s not relevant. My dog has nothing to do with it either. I’ve wanted a German Shepherd since I was a kid. I have small dogs because I rent, and it’s really difficult to find apartments that allow large dogs. When I buy a house, the first thing I’ll do is adopt a German Shepherd… and then Bentley will boss it around because little dogs are generally tougher anyhow.
Q: Did you get a dog because you can’t have kids?
A: No. I don’t want kids. I want dogs. I don’t understand why people expect everyone to want kids. I’m not the only one who feels this way! Plenty of people are perfectly happy with pets instead of kids.
Q: Are your parents disappointed that you haven’t given them grandkids?
A: 1. I’m not an only child. They have two other shots at grandkids. 2. What other people want isn’t a good way to make life-defining choices — even if they’re your parents. 3. I gave them something way better: grand-dogs.
One of my siblings wants kids. If my parents are getting grandkids, they should look there instead. I firmly believe that the world is over-populated, and I don’t want to make more kids. I wouldn’t be completely against adopting if I had a long term significant other than wanted kids, but it’s just something I’ve never wanted. I don’t think family pressures should cause you to make huge life choices either. You have to live with your life choices, especially if that choice is to have kids. That’s a huge change in lifestyle, and one I don’t want to make for other people. My mom started calling Quincy and Bentley her “grand-dogs” all on her own. Maybe she’d like to have grandkids, but she’s pretty happy with grand-dogs.
Q: But the dog wearing sweaters thing is definitely gay…
A: He’s cold. What do you want me to do, let him freeze? And it’s super cute anyhow.
When my dogs do wear clothes, it’s usually for a few minutes for a picture, or because they’re cold. I do think they’re cute, but I don’t want anything getting in the way of them just being dogs, and these foolish manufacturers make too many hand-wash-only dog clothes. I mean, seriously. You know they’re going to get dirty fast. There’s no way I’m hand washing dog clothes every day!
Quincy gets shaved down whenever he gets to the point that his hair is in his eyes, which isn’t always seasonally appropriate. I’ll let it go until spring usually, but there have been numerous times when he’s needed some extra layers after a haircut. The Pacific Northwest gets cold at night, even in the summer, so sweaters are actually pretty important if we’re out at night, on a camping trip for example. They also help keep them dry, although I haven’t found anything that keeps their feet and belly dry without a lot of fighting!
Q: Aren’t you afraid it’ll be hard to find a boyfriend with all those pets?
A: If he doesn’t like animals, he’s not the right guy. My animals are my life. I’m not sitting around waiting for some guy to happen along. If you give up on your hobbies just to date someone, chances are, you’re a boring person. If you give up your pets to date someone, you’re a terrible person. I’ve come to find out that I have much broader and diverse interests than the average person. I’m perfectly fine with that. If a guy doesn’t like my animals or my hobbies, he’s clearly not the right guy, and I’d be stupid to change my life to accommodate him. If I never find the right guy, that’s ok. I’m not lonely. I have dogs and other creatures, and their love is unconditional.
Q: Oh, is that why you like animals, because your family doesn’t accept you?
A: I liked animals before I had any idea what sex was, much less figured out who I was attracted to. I liked animals since before I could walk. My family accepts me just fine. They might not get it, but they also don’t get my love of animals all that much either. Animals, especially dogs and cats, have been a great comfort when I’ve gone through tough times, including coming out, but they’ve comforted me through tough things that had nothing to do with being gay as well. It is true that dogs are more accepting than people, so I’m definitely glad to have them, no matter what.
Q: So what’s this gay agenda I keep hearing about?
A: It’s a myth made up by people with an anti-gay agenda. Gay people just want to live in peace and have equal rights.No one wants to ruin your marriage. No one wants to close down your church. No one wants to corrupt your children. We just want to live our lives and walk our dogs in peace.
So those are my two cents on the misconceptions about gay people and our dogs. For a female perspective, head over to Fidose of Reality and read Carol’s post on the subject!